Newly launched non-profit, Betrayal Trauma Recovery (BTR), is an organization that focuses solely on the spouses of porn users. They help spouses experiencing neglect as a result of their partners’ porn addiction. BTR is one of very few organizations that focus on helping the partners of addicts through the addicts’ anger, resentment, infidelity, psychological abuse, and manipulation as well as emotional, financial, and sexual neglect.
“Too often, when therapists guide clients to build and nurture intimacy with someone who still exhibits unhealthy and/or abusive behaviors, it sets those clients up for more frequent, severe, and covert abuse,” said Anne Blythe, Founder & CEO of Betrayal Trauma Recovery. The clients with BTR are advised to prioritize emotional safety, empowering them to set and maintain boundaries that are crucial to establish a peaceful life.
“At first, I thought we could work through my husband’s porn addiction just the two of us. I thought I could inspire him to quit,” said Ashley, a BTR client. “What I didn’t realize is that I was being emotionally abused and that he had been lying and deceiving me – ultimately choosing porn over our marriage. Thanks to BTR, I was able to understand the patterns of narcissism and gaslighting and come to a place of empowerment and strength that actually helped me.”
BTR stresses that setting healthy boundaries to establish safety, stability and peace is the first priority. “We do not advocate for divorce or staying together,” says Coach Rae, certified by The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) and Coaching Coordinator at BTR. “Our goal is to help our clients make healthy, informed decisions about their relationships.” Many clients have found essential education and validation from listening to the free Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast.
BTR coaches use APSATS’ Multi-Dimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPT-M™) which urges clients to secure emotional safety and stability before attempting to process the complexities of the situation, and before encouraging clients to explore emotional reconnection to their porn-using loved ones.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery gives people access to various online support services including groups and support calls with a coach trained by APSATS. Additionally, all BTR coaches have experienced betrayal trauma first hand, and understand the healing process.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery is a 501(c)(3) non-profit, available when people need immediate emotional refuge from the pain, chaos, and isolation associated with their partner’s pornography use, sex addiction and/or related behaviors like lying, gaslighting, emotional abuse, and narcissistic behaviors. Spouses seeking help recovering from betrayal trauma and it’s accompanying issues can learn more about by visiting btr.org.